Couples Therapy

Connection is possible.
Repair is possible.
Change is possible.

Relationships can be some of our greatest sources of love, joy, and meaning—and also of pain, conflict, and confusion. Couples therapy is a space to reconnect, rebuild, and reimagine what’s possible together.

What Makes This Work Different

My approach to couples therapy is warm, honest, and refreshingly direct. I'm not just a passive observer—I'm an active participant in your healing process. I take a clear stance in support of relational health and do not hesitate to name behaviors that undermine connection, always with permission and deep respect.

Importantly, I don’t see myself as a referee or judge. I’m here as a fellow traveler and relationship specialist, supporting each of you in showing up more fully in your relationship—with honesty, courage, and compassion.

Rather than focusing on how to change your partner, I help you turn inward:
What am I doing?
Why am I doing it?
What do I want to do differently?

Common Challenges That Bring Couples In

Feeling disconnected or emotionally distant

  • Repetitive conflict and communication breakdowns

  • Diminished intimacy or sexual dissatisfaction

  • Recovering from betrayal or affairs

  • Navigating major life transitions

  • Feeling “stuck” in old, painful relational patterns

What to Expect
(and What to Let Go Of)

Many people arrive with misconceptions about couples therapy. Here are a few I help clients move beyond:

“Every problem between partners is 50/50.” → Not necessarily. Responsibility is often uneven and unique to each situation.

“If we fight, something is wrong with us.” → Conflict is normal; it’s how you handle it that matters.

“Therapy is just about learning new skills.” → Skills are helpful, but not sufficient. I’ll teach you to deal with the parts of you that won’t use skills.

“My partner needs to change.” → Real change happens when each person takes ownership of their role in the dynamic.

“I just need some space to vent.” → We all need space to complain from time to time, but venting is only good for keeping things the way they are. I’ll teach you to go for what you want with assertiveness and love.

Therapy isn't about achieving constant harmony. It’s about becoming more conscious, more courageous, and more connected—especially in the hard moments.

Beyond Skills:
Transformational Relational Work

Yes, I teach skills—but more importantly, I help you understand:

  • Why you do what you do in your relationship that might be getting int he way of what you want

  • What blocks intimacy or openness, and how to work with it

  • How to engage with the parts of you that resist change and won’t use skills

  • How to notice and savor moments of connection, possibility, and intimacy

There is a deeply spiritual dimension to this work. I believe relational healing is world-healing. The way we relate to those closest to us has ripple effects far beyond our homes. When we shift how we show up in our partnerships—with more presence, humility, and care—we begin to shift the world. My approach to relational healing is deeply rooted in profound, universal spiritual principles such as:

  • Beginner’s Mind

  • Impermanence

  • Non-attachment

  • Humility

  • Interdependence

  • Healing ancestral trauma and lineage burdens

Working with Stuck Patterns

Many of the couples I work with are navigating long-standing patterns of disconnection or distress. We begin by:

  • Clearly identifying the cycle that keeps you stuck

  • Normalizing the pattern as your nervous system’s best attempt to protect you

  • Clarifying priorities—do you want someone to blame, or do you want to do something different?

  • Equipping partners with the perspective and skills needed for real change and deepening intimacy

You can’t control everything in your relationship, but you can learn to respond instead of react, take responsibility for your part, and commit to healthier ways of relating.

You can’t control your partner, but you can learn to respond with relational skill, take responsibility for your part, and commit to healthier ways of relating.

Change doesn’t happen overnight—but it is absolutely possible.

If you’re ready to work, I’m ready to walk with you.